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[venom3300]

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I see that as running from a problem that only seperates families further down the road...can't run from your problems...gotta stand up and face em...a good talk will go a long way in figuring out what there issue is, then work from there...

family and friends are number 1 priority well before your significant other...

i agree, i do think he should talk to his parents and work it out

but sometimes parents are overbearing and unwilling to change

and no, dont move out just to be with your girl, family first- she should understand that..... the only reason you should move out is because ur parents are driving u nuts and u cant take it anymore. this doesnt mean u shouldnt spend time with your parents and certainly not kick them out of ur life

[coco95z28]

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i have been with my gf for 9 years and still dont want to move in with her lol

[vanbibber]

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me and my wife were together for 3 months, moved in together, were engaged at 7 months and married less than a year after that. been together 4.5 years now, had 2 fights in that time. thats how i roll.

[Everglades W68]

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3 months?!?!?!?!?! That's absolutely nothing and totally meaningless. Date her for three years and then you have something to consider.

As far as your parents - live by their rules and continue to enjoy your heavily subsidized housing and don't complain - or move out and do as you wish. It is very simple and it is totally your choice.

[ssms5411]

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3 months?!?!?!?!?! That's absolutely nothing and totally meaningless. Date her for three years and then you have something to consider.

As far as your parents - live by their rules and continue to enjoy your heavily subsidized housing and don't complain - or move out and do as you wish. It is very simple and it is totally your choice.

X2 , you summed up my post.

[camarov696]

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im 24, i grew up with my parents watching out for me and setting a curfew when i was in middle school/ freshman year of highschool. once i got a little older and they fully trusted my decisions they lifted the curfew and just told me to be careful and if i were to drink to not drive/ drive with someone that drank and that i can always call them if needed. this is what parents do, protect their kids. i see this now that im older.

i agree with what most of the op said. have a MATURE sit down with your parents, talk it out, and see what happens. if they say no, then ask for a later curfew. As for the girl, give it some time. You only been together 3 months. for all you know she may be like your best friend and not be good with money/ living with someone. if you cant fart in front of her yet then your not ready to move in together :).. but all kidding aside, give it some time.

[FirebirdGT]

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I met my GF in August, moved in together late October. Everything was wonderful. I was 27, she 25. Married in January, she was pregnant by May. 15 years later the divorce was final, but it took another 10 years and $100,000 in support to FINALLY END this "relationship" mistake.

WAIT!

[cam98aro]

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personally I would sit down with the rents and have a long talk about how you feel...at 20 years old you should be on your own and independant..you need to find out why they feel the way they do and work on it from there...but deal with it in a responsible "adult manner"...not throw a hissy fit or any crap like that...

I wouldnt move in with a g.f at your stage yet...too soon, and that can be a bigger headache...find the route of the issue that your rents have and chip away at it a little bit at a time...

i agree with this, but if he lives with his parents, and they own the house, and he doesnt pay any form of rent to live there, he has to go by their house, their rules.

and i agree with everyone else, 3 months is not nearly long enough, im not saying this is your situation, but im sure most of us has been through it.. sometimes your feelings for a girl can get in the way of who she really is, you can actually make yourself thing she is different than she actually is and not even realize it

[cam98aro]

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I met my GF in August, moved in together late October. Everything was wonderful. I was 27, she 25. Married in January, she was pregnant by May. 15 years later the divorce was final, but it took another 10 years and $100,000 in support to FINALLY END this "relationship" mistake.

WAIT!

yup, one of my profs in college was a pastor, and also married people.

before he agreed to marry them he would ask a bunch of questions, stuff like abortion, etc. He told us that he split more people up than he married, because they would see that they are two completely different people and should not be getting married because it most likely would not end well.

[nimrod.sixty9]

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Dayum! $460 for an apartment?! Im movin to Vero

Not saying YOU should move out or anything. Thats just really cheap LOL

You should watch The Heartbreak Kid. Its a romance comedy, but it will give some perspective on how fast **** can change with the women... Quite entertaining

http://www.imdb.com/video/screenplay/vi3002269977/

[Everglades W68]

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Dayum! $460 for an apartment?! Im movin to Vero

Not saying YOU should move out or anything. Thats just really cheap LOL

http://www.imdb.com/video/screenplay/vi3002269977/

Vero Beach (AKA "Zero Beach" for its nightlife) is nice but is mainly noted for its large population of fairly well-to-do retired folks. There are no $460 apartments - you'll have to sharea small apartment with others in a not so great location for $460 per month.

[nimrod.sixty9]

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Vero Beach (AKA "Zero Beach" for its nightlife) is nice but is mainly noted for its large population of fairly well-to-do retired folks. There are no $460 apartments - you'll have to sharea small apartment with others in a not so great location for $460 per month.

You think Chobee is any different? Vero is the same with a little more going for it...

[nascar24jd]

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This is rather simple...

You have 2 choices. Either deal with your parents rules or move out and support yourself 100%. If you cannot support yourself 100% then you will have to put up with their rules.

As for moving in with your GF, the choice is totally yours and nobody has a crystal ball. I did it and it worked out perfectly. Together for 13 years, married for 9 years and 2 great children. However, if it does not work out for you then you better have a plan B or you will ending up going back to your parents house, minus your pride...

Best of luck.

[cam98aro]

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However, if it does not work out for you then you better have a plan B or you will ending up going back to your parents house, minus your pride...

Best of luck.

yeah, and i think the parents ego would go through the roof with that one "i told ya so"

parents sometimes underestimate their children, but they were once kids, and they once went through the same thing, so they know how it is, and usually try to do what is best for their childs protection.

[RadRacer]

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Had a talk with them about lifting the curfew and they're gonna think about it....Still, 3 months doesn't mean anything; you can't put a time frame on love.....the $460 apartments are nothing special, just a bedroom and small kitchen and they're in a income based community, so not everyone can get in there.