heartbroken or lost lust?

[Gary m. weber]

Well here goes my story in short, and if anyone can shed some light on it then please help me. I'm slowly falling into the depressed mode and can't function correctly.

The deal is I was in this relationship for aprox. 6 months and before I met this girl I hadn't dated much for about 10 years. I probley went out on dates like less than 10 times, But Id go to strip clubs,massage pallars,stuff like that, anyways back to the issue ..I met this girl and took it slow at first but I thought she was truely the one I been looking for my whole life. The first 3 months we got along well,never argued once, had killer sex at least once a day, sometimes 2-3 times when I was on,and we did have things in common. She ask me to live with her and I was staying with her but also I still had my apt.that I would go for clothes and close to work and stuff.Then our relationship started to seem different and we were always fighting, alot of times she would accuse me of something that I would have no clue about so I would lash out at her then we get in a shouting match and call names and stuff. then I would finially convience her she made a misstake and we go on. But it was starting to be like that like 3-4 times a week. and then with her blameing and pointing the finger at me, I would start to have suspecions about her. well what I dont understand,is the other day we had a dissagreement and she told me to go.so I left for awhile and now she wont return phone calls,answer the door,she dosnt call me,nothing, I ask her whats up with us and she wont tell me ****. Its been amost 2 weeks since we have been together,I did get ahold of her a couple of times but she just hangs up. So what does this all mean and why would a girl say she loves you and wants u forever and then in one quick moment act like I dont exsist, I dont get it. gman211203

[InZane4all]

First off, I feel for you man. I have been through almost the exact same situation, minus the living together. I think the first mistake that was made in the relationship in my honest opinion was when you guys moved in together. It was way too soon. She probably wasn't used to someone else being in her space.

If it's been 2 weeks since you guys last saw each other and she continues to be hesitant to talk to you, I say move on. I understand that it's been a while since you dated someone and gotten these feelings, but it isn't fair that you have to suffer in the opposite end. Then again, if you really want to keep hope alive, give her some time to think and maybe she'll begin to realize that she made a mistake in severing your relationship with her.

[Ender2664]

Honestly bro it is all her and you are lucky that she is giving you this out. I know it feels like she is kicking you out, but take this and run man. She is fighting with you cause she can't be happy, she doesn't know how to be, and therefore she is trying to get unhappyness in the relationship to make it comfortable, and is that really what you want for the rest of you life? I think not. Trust me on this one, i see it all the time, i know chicks like this, they do it over and over to all the dudes they date no matter how good the dude is and no matter what he does.
Just take it and run, i am sorry you had to go throught this, and that you thought you were going to be able to be happy, but just take off man.

[Tyler]

u run like the wind and dont look back!!

[shock_core]

run

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

sorry man but the day you find the answer to that question your proly dead and god just told you the answer...

sorry to here about it tho

[12secondv6]

Move on... if she loved you... she would have approached you already

[Gary m. weber]

I believe all the answers are true and even thou I have emotions going through me, If she ant gave me time of day yet, she dont love me or dont know what love is, and to that, I must do some healing and get in my maro and go to a strip club and get happy. Damm I do love that ***** gman211203

[memphis_raines]

Forget her. I had the same thing happen to me, except I moved 600 miles to be with her. It didn't take but a couple of months for things to get ugly. I left, and less than a month later she was married to someone else, a clear indication that she had been screwing around on me. My advice is let the past be the past, my friend.

[Renzo]

Has she had a rough past experience with previous bfs? Sometimes gurls, or guys, will unconsciously do things to drive off their partner, happens sometimes. Don't get me wrong or nothing, 'cause i aint tryin' to get on her side, maybe she's just gone loco and doesnt know what to do with herself anymore. Don't waste ur time, there's so many gurls out there, one of them is bound to be sane. You'll find that one special gurl, dont' worry man

[Domesticchic]

If she is acting like that, just move on.. You'll find some other girl that will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.. You don't need a girl who is going to fight with you all of the time.. It'll just make a good relationship go bad and uncomfortable..

[Jesticle]

Originally posted by Ender2664:
Honestly bro it is all her and you are lucky that she is giving you this out. I know it feels like she is kicking you out, but take this and run man. She is fighting with you cause she can't be happy, she doesn't know how to be, and therefore she is trying to get unhappyness in the relationship to make it comfortable, and is that really what you want for the rest of you life? I think not. Trust me on this one, i see it all the time, i know chicks like this, they do it over and over to all the dudes they date no matter how good the dude is and no matter what he does.
Just take it and run, i am sorry you had to go throught this, and that you thought you were going to be able to be happy, but just take off man.

This man is 100% correct. A LOT of Women are unhappy in EVERY relationship and blame it on the guy after a certain amount of time. They love the dramatic BS, aren't happy with who they are and try to find external happiness. Happiness is a frame of mind, coming from within a person. These women will never understand that.

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