Honestly, only if you're really bored...

[JusFlyinBy]

So you must be bored? Or maybe you wanna play psychologist? Im just looking for some opinions from people on the outside. I just want to know how you would react or feel if you read this in your girlfriends (or boyfriends) online journal thingy... And the person she is talking about is her ex... Sorry, its long, but if you're bored [img]tongue.gif[/img] ...

"Geez did this night turn out emo!! I've been hiding out in my room all night from Sneaky Pete (creepy guy who asked me on a date) so I got to listening to music which lead me to some reminiscing. This music just opened a floodgate of memories, such happy ones. It's amazing tho how much can change in one short year. When I saw him my heart was ready to burst-just because everything was just as I expected it to be. And it just kills me cuz things could be so much different, so much better. And in a way I feel it's my fault. But that's just me always trying to please. But I can't help remembering how things were, all that he opened me to, all that we did, just everything. He shaped who I am now. It just hurts so much to think of where our lives have lead us-so far apart, how now two people that were so close have barely anything in common besides the memories that we hold on to. I just feel that it's partly my fault cuz he put so much into me and I just couldn't give it back, I couldn't help him hold on. And to think that he always felt like he wasn't good enough for me- when he was exactly what I needed then. I just wish I had more time to see with him, talk to him, just relate and goof around and watch crappy 80s movies and Lizzy McGuire. I can't help but feel sad about our visit, but I'm just afraid he thought I was disappointed in him. But I'm not, it just makes me so sad to see him settle for less then I know he's worth. But if he's happy, I'm happy for him. He's the one person in this world who's happiness means everything to me. It's just funny how sometimes we want so bad to live in the past. I wouldn't change what I have now for the world, but sometimes I just wish that I could go back just for a bit and experience all that again. I'm content where I am now. He's such a beautiful person (no not a that girl's beautiful person) and I can't wish him anything but the best. I'll love you always, you were my past and will always hold a place in my future."

I dont even know if she knows I read her Xanga site journal thingy. But that there, it makes me feel like im not living up to her expectations, when she mentions how things could be so much better. Am I misreading this cause it makes me feel like ****, especially how shes "Holding a place for him in her future". Am I overreacting? We've been "Seeing each other" for about 3 months, and officially dating for about one month. Id like to hear from an unbiased crowd that doesnt really know either of us. Thanks...

[i_love_my_maro]

i am actually helping a friend through a similar situation right now. take this at face value and don't read into it. YOU need to evaluate the situation and figure out what YOU want first. Then you can address the relationship. A way that i have read about to address certain relationship problems is to list all the bad things in the relationship and then for every bad thing list 4 (most people say 5 but i think 4 is enough) things to counter act each one then you have a very good relationship to build on. If you feel that there is a good solid relationship there just push forward and fight through if not you might want to rethink things sorry this is really long i don't mean to waste your time reading this but that is my take on the situation if you have anymore ?'s you can email me or i will check back.

Have a Good Day

Jake

[fbirdgt01]

I'm exactly where you are right now in my relationship. It's hard. You are not over reacting... but you need to communicate. From my experiences, talking problems out is the mature and easiest way to take away the feelings you have. If my boyfriend and I didn't talk, we would not be together. I have seen things similar to the journal entry, and he's also been physical with his ex of 6 years while with me. So, it's a long ahrd road. But we admitted to eachother that we noth jumped into a relationship too soon after his extremely long term one had just ended.

in short, just talk to her, and tell her what you are feeling. ;)

[57s98Camaro]

She's horny, go over there and get it on [img]smile.gif[/img]

On a more serious note, everyone remembers people from the past that were special. It's nothing to worry about really, all it takes is something stupid to jog a person's memory and make images come back. Music does that often, which is why I don't attach songs with girls. I listen to too many bands to have to give one up because of a failed relationship.

[98goldbird]

Yah, it's just a girl's emotions coming back to her. Girl's emotions are explosive, and I personally don't think they can handle them. [img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img] This is just one of her moments, and remember, she's known her ex for a LONG time (i take it) and you only a few months. Just allow more time in your relationship, and YES...COMMUNICATE! Ask her if there's anything you can do to help (even though I doubt there is), but like you too...something will jog a memory of a past ex, you'll enjoy and long for it, but you'll get over it. It's just human nature, it happens to everyone.

[JusFlyinBy]

Yea guys, I understand "Longing for an ex". It happens. But I dont think I would write some elaborate thing up about it, and post it where my girlfriend will no doubt see and read it. Funny thing is, this kid is her ex - ex, and prob hasnt dated him for like, 3 years now. What scares me is he is probably a lot more her type than me... I dont know, I guess im just asking if I am looking in too deep. Pretty much all that I got from that was, shes content where she is now, but would be a lot happier if things were back the way they were. Its like, thanks for settling for me... :( Am I reading that wrong? Last thing id want to do is go to her questioning this, but I really just misread it... I hate relationship discussions! heh.

And fbirdGT01, geez, if my situation was like yours, I wouldnt be with her anymore, the answer would be clear to me, but im glad you worked it out though.

Thanks for actually readin all this BS... [img]smile.gif[/img]

[57s98Camaro]

Dude, as soon as you start to worry like that it's all going to go to hell. She's with you now, and you're doing just great. Being nervous about petty crap like that will ruin it for you, TRUST ME.

[JohnD.]

Yeah, I wasn't as bored as I thought I was. Couldn't finish it.......sorry.

[JusFlyinBy]

Ehh, you're right. Screw it, I'll pretend I never saw it. Im not one to get all worked up over this crap anyways. I'll chalk it up as her "Missing his friendship" and just be done with it.

Its just, shes been away to college 3 hours away for 2 weeks now, and instead of any reassurance from her that she thinks of or misses me, I get to read shes thinking of and missing her ex... lol, see my point? Geez, can't you chicks ever be happy!?! [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[fbirdgt01]

yes... money cars and clothes... and sex that is out to please us.

then we're peachy ;)

I'm kidding, but yeah. It's the generations now i think...we're all manic depressive or something.

[97rs]

its easier for chicks to do that when you are separated and havent seen each other for awhile. trust me, i know

[Ian]

This is so emo?

What the hell?

Give her the shocker....

[pontiac nino]

Wow, reading that makes me think how bad women can be *****es and whores sometimes, so bad they can rip out you're ****en heart and break it into a million pieces.

[JusFlyinBy]

Emo... She finds people who are Emo to be whiners who just sit around in their rooms like hermits and feel sorry for themselves. Thats what she means by it Ian.

[jc Kyle]

i'd say something to her.. i couldn't date someone if i read that ****.. it'd weigh on my mind too much