Dating a gril with a kid??? advice?

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

Well shes due in Dec, i won't see her till sometime in JAN-FEB.
I am willing to accept things if it get to the point of marrage. we have both been up front, me in that i want at least one "blood" child. I am a only child i want my own son or daughter. even thou Alexus I would still consider mine. So yes i am ready i have always been good with kids.

She was already engaged before her boyfriend found out that she had a child!?

No they was with each other for almost 3 years, and got engaged, she got pregnate and in her 6th month the as$ told her to choose him or the baby, she took the baby.

If you two split up down the road, the kid will be affected from the break up

right now the child to young to remember me and i could slowy got into the Parent mode just dating, i know i can do it.

Money is not an isseu the camaro is piad off in a year and i don't see us getting married that soon lol.

[GreenDragon]

lol,be prepared to buy pampers,cothes etc,personaly I wouldnt date a pregnate chick,but thats me

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

Originally posted by GreenDragon:
lol,be prepared to buy pampers,cothes etc,personaly I wouldnt date a pregnate chick,but thats me

if nothing else it free birth control

[Cole Angrimson]

i dated a girlt that was 22 and had a kid. I was 18 at the time and not mature enought to handle it. I actually liked her kid. He was pretty young when i was dating her though. i think i would do it again .

[Silv6]

Originally posted by EolGul:
Run away, far away.

[epic]

In seriousness, if you're asking this type of question on a messageboard, you're not ready for this type of relationship. When getting involved in a relationship like this, you must be VERY mature about how you approach it because not only are you two involved, but you include a third mix into the relationship cocktail, who ends up being just as important as your significant other. Without the same commitment to both, you'll fail miserably. My friend tried it and he failed miserably.

But I rather talk about grills. Ribs are TOP-NOTCH.

[EolGul]

Originally posted by viper04af:
Well shes due in Dec, i won't see her till sometime in JAN-FEB.
I am willing to accept things if it get to the point of marrage. we have both been up front, me in that i want at least one "blood" child. I am a only child i want my own son or daughter. even thou Alexus I would still consider mine. So yes i am ready i have always been good with kids.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />She was already engaged before her boyfriend found out that she had a child!?

No they was with each other for almost 3 years, and got engaged, she got pregnate and in her 6th month the as$ told her to choose him or the baby, she took the baby.

If you two split up down the road, the kid will be affected from the break up

right now the child to young to remember me and i could slowy got into the Parent mode just dating, i know i can do it.

Money is not an isseu the camaro is piad off in a year and i don't see us getting married that soon lol. </font>[/QUOTE]Wow. I'm so sorry, man.
1. You're willing to accept things? Why should you have to "accept" anything? You're 21 years old. You can find plenty of girls with a lot less baggage than this one.
2. She chose the baby over him. She'll choose the baby over you. Enjoy your child support (at the very least)
3. Unless you OWN your house, have a flowing source of income, and drive a 'vette, money is always an issue.

[andrew.brandon]

Originally posted by viper04af:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by GreenDragon:
lol,be prepared to buy pampers,cothes etc,personaly I wouldnt date a pregnate chick,but thats me

if nothing else it free birth control </font>[/QUOTE]look on the bright side, she will be getting(better be) paid child support.

[majeskyb]

Let's not forget the military side of all this. Would you be willing to move the mother and child around every few years? Will she be willing to do this? That is assuming you do get serious with her. Also, how would the child feel about having his father leave every year or so for four months at a time? I know our financial situations are different, but we are the same rank, and I personally don't see it working out for us (my wife and me) to have a child until at least e-5.

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

Originally posted by majeskyb:
Let's not forget the military side of all this. Would you be willing to move the mother and child around every few years? Will she be willing to do this? That is assuming you do get serious with her. Also, how would the child feel about having his father leave every year or so for four months at a time? I know our financial situations are different, but we are the same rank, and I personally don't see it working out for us (my wife and me) to have a child until at least e-5.

you know you get more money when you have kid right? most guys the same rank as me with one kid more almost 2x as much as i do

[EolGul]

Viper, if you want to hear THE man talk about single moms, and have an extra 10-30 minutes on your hands, e-mail me or AIM me at EolGul2
-just trying to help out a great member of this site

[crasher]

Originally posted by KBeezy:
"Dating a gril with a kid??? advice? "

Personally, I'd never date a GRIL. [img]tongue.gif[/img]


But a girl with a kid? Think about it this way.. You'll ALWAYS have to deal with the kids father and there will always probably be some tension there. Lots of baggage if you ask me.

exactly nothing but baddage my cusin is in a relation ship like that right now. I know the chick doesn't like him she is just mooching off him for aslong as she can. She doesn't work, sits at home all day long and is sucking him dry. Everyone in my family has talked to him but he just won't listen. She has dug her nails in him and won't let go with out a fight. Now I know all women arn't like that but the only advice I can tell you is to take it SLOW exteamly slow don't jump into things like moving in with each other and stuff like that just take your sweet time with her and see what happens.

[majeskyb]

Originally posted by viper04af:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by majeskyb:
Let's not forget the military side of all this. Would you be willing to move the mother and child around every few years? Will she be willing to do this? That is assuming you do get serious with her. Also, how would the child feel about having his father leave every year or so for four months at a time? I know our financial situations are different, but we are the same rank, and I personally don't see it working out for us (my wife and me) to have a child until at least e-5.

you know you get more money when you have kid right? most guys the same rank as me with one kid more almost 2x as much as i do </font>[/QUOTE]Your baq is rated for having a dependent. It doesn't matter if you're married, married with a child, or married with 10 children. You still get the same amount. Now, when it comes time to do you're taxes, that's a different story...

[HAZ-Matt]

So let me get this straight. She was engaged, but when the guy found out that she was pregnant he said "me or the kid" and then dumped her? Something isn't right here. Typically a man will not dump his fiancee when he gets her pregnant. Emphasis on that last part of the sentence. Then again, he could just truly have been a waste of oxygen.

[GrigoryRasputin]

I believe he (Haz-Matt) is trying to imply that the kid wasnt the fiance's kid.... hmmm