Dating a gril with a kid??? advice?

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

they was together in HS and i seen them together a few times after....... she stoped buy here use to be freinds and he was there the next day is when he told her that

i dont think she would have a reason to lie to me. we never talked about a relationship till about 3 days ago so.....

i don't know wores that can happen is it not work out.

[F1GT]

Been there, done that. Its going to be really hard going out with her, since she has the baby to take care of. The kid will keep her up on night so she won't be too energetic when/if you guys do get a chance to get out. You won't be getting 100% of her attention, as she will be thinking of the kid. And when the kid is not there, she will be missing him/her. Plus she has to deal with the other "baggage". Think about it, 9 months of plumpness, then boom, extra skin and stretch marks. She will be shy to get intimate with you. Will always want the light off,,,etc. There are other physical nasties as well sometimes, but you'll see. Then you have to also worry about the daddy coming to visit....think before diving in. There are other fishes in the sea.

Sure you're not on rebound stage?

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

Originally posted by F1GT:
Been there, done that. Its going to be really hard going out with her, since she has the baby to take care of. The kid will keep her up on night so she won't be too energetic when/if you guys do get a chance to get out. You won't be getting 100% of her attention, as she will be thinking of the kid. And when the kid is not there, she will be missing him/her. Plus she has to deal with the other "baggage". Think about it, 9 months of plumpness, then boom, extra skin and stretch marks. She will be shy to get intimate with you. Will always want the light off,,,etc. There are other physical nasties as well sometimes, but you'll see. Then you have to also worry about the daddy coming to visit....think before diving in. There are other fishes in the sea.

Sure you're not on rebound stage?

i know but ia hve to try and see what happens, im goign to take it slow and ust see what come out of it

[BiH]

Originally posted by viper04af:
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Been there, done that. Its going to be really hard going out with her, since she has the baby to take care of. The kid will keep her up on night so she won't be too energetic when/if you guys do get a chance to get out. You won't be getting 100% of her attention, as she will be thinking of the kid. And when the kid is not there, she will be missing him/her. Plus she has to deal with the other "baggage". Think about it, 9 months of plumpness, then boom, extra skin and stretch marks. She will be shy to get intimate with you. Will always want the light off,,,etc. There are other physical nasties as well sometimes, but you'll see. Then you have to also worry about the daddy coming to visit....think before diving in. There are other fishes in the sea.

Sure you're not on rebound stage?

i know but ia hve to try and see what happens, im goign to take it slow and ust see what come out of it </font>[/QUOTE]hes already drunk [img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img]

[fantomfreke]

bro shoot me an email if you wanna chat bout this, my ex gf had 2 kids, one 7 the other 3. hit me up and i'll tell ya some war/horror stories. dont get me wrong im not anti-single mom but theres alot that goes into it.

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

any others ????? (AKA TTT)

[Shirl]

No they was with each other for almost 3 years, and got engaged, she got pregnate and in her 6th month the as$ told her to choose him or the baby, she took the baby.

Nice guy.

Ok, here's the deal. Some of the guys in here hit it right on the head (no pun intended) with some of the advice. First, it's not YOUR baby. No matter how hard you try to accept it as being yours, it will play on you because you'll be thinking...damn, she had this child with someone else and now I'm helping her take care of it even though it's not mine. Second, as someone else mentioned, "daddy" will be coming to visit and when daddy visits, he will be talking to "mommy" [img]graemlins/barf.gif[/img] Third, there will be little or NO time for you two to be intimate and grow together because that baby is going to be crying for food, attention, ect ect. Ever have a baby wake you up every night at 2am when you have to get up for work the next day? Get use to it cuz that's what's gonna happen if you decide to live together. The only way you will grow together is if you include the baby in just about EVERYTHING you do together.... and even then, when you are out in public and someone says "oh, you two have such a cute baby", you might even feel stupid because in reality it's not yours. These are not random statements made by myself and others. They are reality.

Ok, since I try to look at both sides of every situation here's the positive side. Try it out and see for yourself... Realize though (and continually remind yourself) that you'll need to be VERY patient and understanding. If it is "meant to be" you will reap rewards from the relationship regardless of any obstacles. But just like ALL relationships, it'll take work and A LOT of it. She will probably appreciate you for being there for her, helping her out, loving her for who she is and not what she has, ect. And hopefully, you'll be rewarded in return with a fullfilling long-lasting relationship.

Some advice before doing anything: Think about what's best for you and what you want for YOUR future. Lay everything out on the table with her and find out whether her wants wants are similar to yours. I know you're only 21, but relationships become long-term real quick and before you know it, you'll be 28 wondering what happened along the way and how you ended up where you are (whether good or bad). Take things slowly and see if things progress from there.

[casketcrewchick]

When I was 16-17 I dated a guy with a kid for a while (he was a year older than me) and I wouldnt really recommend it.

I hated to hear-- Sorry I'm late, I had to get diapers. lol