Malice finally makes a girl post

[malice10985]

Originally posted by '98 BlackBird:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by malice10985:
I am not interested in going to bars and bringing home one-time-use cumdumpsters. Sluts and players are the reason STD's are so prevalent. I don't want pimples and puss on my **** because I got drunk and needed to "get some".

If I want to party and have a good time, I do it:
-In my camaro at the track
-In my buddies stunt plane in the sky

Keg stands, rap music, and skanks isn't really my idea of fun.

April are you reading this? ;) [img]graemlins/love.gif[/img] </font>[/QUOTE][img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img] (I'm not laughing at you, Evan. That is just funny that you quoted me)

My friend and I are headed to the mall, to, well... You know.

[Cam]

Originally posted by malice10985:
My major is Professional aviation. I am already an FAA Certified Flight Instructor.

Yeah, it's only $800 bucks. I was thinking that too.

I feel like I trained her from the ground up. She never used to be into cars or heavy metal. Her favorite band is Pantera now. SHe is about to buy a 97 TA. I think I am obligated to get hitched to her. I took a plain old country girl and turned her into exactly what I wanted.

your my ****ing hero...

[malice10985]

Originally posted by Cam:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by malice10985:
My major is Professional aviation. I am already an FAA Certified Flight Instructor.

Yeah, it's only $800 bucks. I was thinking that too.

I feel like I trained her from the ground up. She never used to be into cars or heavy metal. Her favorite band is Pantera now. SHe is about to buy a 97 TA. I think I am obligated to get hitched to her. I took a plain old country girl and turned her into exactly what I wanted.

your my ****ing hero... </font>[/QUOTE]Ummm... which part makes me cool?
-FAA flight instructor
-I found a cheap ring that she likes
-I turned a normal girl into a roadracing headbanging nymphomaniac
WHere are you in KS? I am in Salina, right in the middle of the state.

[ December 04, 2004, 05:30 PM: Message edited by: malice10985 ]

[EolGul]

I would say don't get married. IM me @ EolGul2 when you have a few minutes . . .

[57s98Camaro]

You know dude, I would hold off on it for a while. If she loves you like you think she does then she will wait for you to set your life up. Get established in the military, get some funds under your belt, find a nice place to live, etc.

Also, I would suggest not inviting her to live with you until you get married. It's statistically proven that less couples stay together when they've lived together before marriage.

Also....... she's really good looking. Nice pick [img]smile.gif[/img]

[daxdie]

Malice, old pal.

Do it!! Marry her!

Life is great, and the only thing that can be added to it besides your own hard work, is a good mate!

[malice10985]

Originally posted by daxdie:
Malice, old pal.

Do it!! Marry her!

Life is great, and the only thing that can be added to it besides your own hard work, is a good mate!

Good to hear from you! I bought the ring today, I just need to give it to her. I'll wait till xmas is a little closer.

I am gonna get commissioned in 6 weeks.

[bitchinRS]

I don't know if the rest of you will agree, but it seems like serious relationships prior to a girl turning 21 and experiencing the whole bar scene never seem to work out. I got engaged when I was 22 and by that time I was ready to find a nice guy to settle down with. This situation may be a little different, but who knows. Some girls are ready to get married at 19. I know I wasn't. And for those who say "It's only $800"...yeah, that's the cost of the ring. What's the wedding going to cost?

Good luck Malice. I hope everything works out for you [img]smile.gif[/img]

[RdBrd83]

My suggestion would be to go ahead and get engaged if that's what you want to do, but make it a LONG engagement. I don't remember reading anything about if she's going to college or not, but if she is, I'd say wait till she finished with school, because getting married and starting a life with you would be huge distraction from her trying to finish college.
If you're meant to spend the rest of your life with someone, then you'll still be together in a couple years, married or not.
That's my .02 cents atleast. But good luck [img]smile.gif[/img]

[imported_admin]

Malice--you have a very difficult situation to assess, as you may have an exception on your hands.

Normally I would say hell no... do not be the first. As both Evan and myself can recently painfully attest to, young women start to wonder what they really want after they've had "the first" for a few years. Even if you really are Mr. Right, they'll say "gee, how will I know if I don't have any other relationships to compare this to?". Jenn used to give me that line all the time and my response was always that I've had a zillion and to trust me, I've seen the good the bad and ulgy, and this is not the latter. Didn't stop her from taking the ring off though.

However...

Small town country girls often don't need that same exposure level to be sure. You'll never find a suburban girl who goes to college marrying the first guy she dates, but you do hear about that regularly in small towns. So maybe she won't want to experiment. Uncertain.

She's pretty though, and given your freaky pictures the two of you look like a cute couple. Aaaawwwww! *pinches Malice's cheek* :D

Regarding the ring, though: WAIT ON IT!!! Take it from me, who's 26 and has been down the ring shopping road twice... I'm going to have to give you a ***** [img]graemlins/slap.gif[/img] and [img]graemlins/stickpoke.gif[/img] here. Eight hundred dollars?!? She's worth less to you than a nitrous kit? Cheap *****! A diamond engagement ring is supposed to cost two months salary. If all you can afford right now is an $800 ring, wait two weeks until you sign on and get that good paycheck and then buy it! Sheesh! And Zales, a mall jeweler? You've gotta be kidding! Take that piece of junk back, go to the nearest moderate-sized city, and find a local mom 'n pop owned jewelry store (NOT a commercial chain like Kay, JB Robinson, Zales, etc.) where you actually get to talk to the owner. Jewelry store owners LOVE seeing young guys who are about to propose... its their raison d’être. They'll sit you down and teach you everything you need to know about the four C's: Carat, cut, clarity, and color. (If they don't take the time to teach you this, they don't want your repeat business.)

Remember, she's going to be wearing this rock for the rest of her life, and it directly reflects upon you. A hefty sized, beautiful diamond not only makes YOU look good for providing it, but it deters other guys from hitting on her (hehe) because they say "damn, look at that sucker, she must be high-maintenance, I can't compete with that". Of course, if your girl wants other guys to talk to her constantly then she'll ***** about it but let's not go there. :rolleyes:

Think about ten years from now. Every time someone sees that little chip of a diamond they're going to ask "why did he only get you something that small?". And if you say "that was all we could afford at the time" people will reply that you should have waited until you could do it right. Also, other guys will see that little thing and say to themselves "that guy must be a loser, I can top that" and it won't be much of a deterrant.

Now, I'm not saying go blow $10k on a 2 carat B-colorless, but at the very least 0.75-1.0 carat princess cut and at LEAST H or I SI2 or SI1. A nice 0.75 carat SI2 H princess on a gold setting should set you back about $2000-$2500, slightly more if you go platinum. Stay away from white gold. There is no such thing as "white gold"; its just gold mixed with nickel to make it look white. I am a huge fan of platinum but its been pricey the past few years. A normal gold setting is often around $100-$150 while the platinum would be $600. But platinum has incredible chrome-like shine, its much harder than gold, and never tarnishes.

And whatever you do, make sure its a SIX prong setting, not a four.

When I was at the mall the best they had was SI2 and they were pushing me toward SI3 which is a category not even recognized by the European Gemotology Association, the group that certified Jenn's rock. SI3 in their minds is I, aka Imperfect, aka a piece of junk. But the mall stores invented a new category because they didn't want their products to be laughed at in the jewelry community. Heh.

(If what I just said sounded like French let me know and I'll make a post explaining what to look for in a quality diamond.)

Originally posted by RdBrd83:
My suggestion would be to go ahead and get engaged if that's what you want to do, but make it a LONG engagement. I don't remember reading anything about if she's going to college or not, but if she is, I'd say wait till she finished with school, because getting married and starting a life with you would be huge distraction from her trying to finish college.

This is a very typical attitude for young people who are not in a serious relationship.

Being married has NO negative impact on going to college--however, it does affect going to keg parties every Friday night. You go to college for the education, not for the parties. You can get parties without needing to pay $10,000 a year for tuition and books.

If anything, being married would HELP her succeed because she would maintain focus and he would encourage her to study.

I could go on but I think this is enough for now.

So to recap:

1. Take that piece of junk back
2. Spend 2 months going to REAL jewelry shops, doing some research, learning what the Four C's are, and avoiding that mall BS
3. When you're getting that Marine Corps salary, spend two months of it on a *nice* rock that she'll cherish for life and will continue to make you look good forever
4. Don't have the "we can always upgrade later" attitude. Its a diamond. Its the most pure crystal known to man. Upgrading it imples upgrading your marriage and your love--you should never have to. If you do it wasn't love in the first place. Some people say its just symbolism, I say its reality.

[imported_admin]

Originally posted by malice10985:
I am scared to death of marriage, but I really like this girl.

Why?

Is the thought that scary of someone always being there for you, every morning, every afternoon, every evening, always willing to lend an ear to listen to you ***** about your boss, always there to tell you "it'll be alright" when something blows up on your car, always there to make you laugh when something else ****ty happened, always there to tell you to keep going whenever you want to give up on something? A lifetime of companionship, a lifetime of raising a family together, guaranteed sex for life until the two of you grow old as dirt sitting on rocking chairs out front of the nursing home as you tell stories of the Camaro you had when you were kids and she corrects you on every point that you can't remember?

Yes, marriage is scary, isn't it? Who would want all that?

[malice10985]

Stefan, nice of you to drop buy!

I thought that the engagement ring was supposed to be a moderatley expenisive, decent ring; while the actual wedding ring is the high dollar bling bling ring. Correct me.

WE went shopping together, and she tried on some of the really expensive $2-3K rings. She likes this one best because of it's wierd styling. We were at the "Crappy" mall stores, but she got really excited over it.

I am worried about marriage because my parents gave me a terrible image of it. I don't want to be miserable and hateful like they are.

Niether one of us ever liked going to keg parties to mack on shortys. I went to 2 of them my freshman year and I was disgusted. There were hoards of chubby materialistic bleach blondes jiggling thier big nasty bodies to the tune of rap music. (aka dancing) We failed to see the entertainment value of the event.

[imported_admin]

Originally posted by malice10985:
I thought that the engagement ring was supposed to be a moderatley expenisive, decent ring; while the actual wedding ring is the high dollar bling bling ring. Correct me.

Other way around.

The wedding band is just a band--just a gold or platinum ring maybe with some designs carved in it but nothing else attached. The engagement ring (a solitaire, at least) is the part that holds the diamond.

Gold band = $150
Platinum band = $500
Diamond engagement ring = $1,000,000,000,000,000,000

(you get the idea)

[imported_admin]

Originally posted by malice10985:
I am worried about marriage because my parents gave me a terrible image of it. I don't want to be miserable and hateful like they are.

I'm sorry to hear that. :(

Re-read my post above though...

And I'm sure deep down inside you know that was just one horribly flawed incident. I'm sure this is much easier for me to say than for you to understand, but a lifetime of marriage is supposed to be the most terrific thing anyone could ever hope or pray for.

Happily married guys, back me up here, we have a young bachelor on our hands who's losing faith in marriage... Mighty Thor and Everglades W68 come to mind--help this brutha out and give us your thoughts! [img]smile.gif[/img]

[EolGul]

Is the thought that scary of someone always being there for you . . .
until the probable divorce

always willing to lend an ear to listen to you ***** about your boss . . .
who would probably be your employee if the time spent with your wife was spent realizing your dreams instead

always there to tell you "it'll be alright" when something blows up on your car . . .
but not there to pay for the blown part

always there to tell you to keep going whenever you want to give up on something . . .
until your priotities get in the way of hers

guaranteed sex for life. . .
but of lower quality and less frequency each year

Yes, marriage is scary, isn't it.

[ December 06, 2004, 01:48 AM: Message edited by: EolGul ]