Your Opinions? (Sorry, more relationship BS)

[JusFlyinBy]

Just out of curiousity, Id like to see what some different people think of this situation.

Your woman (or man) is currently attending a co-op 3 hours away in a boring neighborhood, doesn't know many people because no one there is their age and usually sits home on the weekends because of it. This weekend, she (or he), is going out. Yea, great, perfect, go out and do stuff and be happy! But then you find out, shes going to go party with her ex of whom she broke up with 3 months prior, with him not wanting to split up. She's staying the night. Shes gullible and easily takes blame for everything being her fault. Shes done something small before, but none the less brought up some trust issues. He still has no new girlfriend, and had tried to convince her to stay. Your woman shows every sign that shes very happy to be with you but never mentions any kind of assurance that shes over her ex.

A) Do you get mad at her and say, THATS BS, DONT GO! And ruin her weekend?

B) Do you mention to her how you feel about the situation, but then urge her to go on and have a good time because of the countless boring weeks and weekends shes been having.

C) Do you not mention a word, let it eat away inside at you, wondering if the prick is right now trying to make a move on her, but hold some trust in her, knowing that if anything were to happen, you would never know. But in turn, not run the risk of pissing her off for being anal about her choices.

Thanks, its just nice to have some outside opinions. ;)

P.S. I did not straight out ask her who she was going to go visit this weekend, and she didn't tell me. She just said shes goin to visit her friends. I found out thru my source that its her ex. Sketchy?

[ October 15, 2004, 07:05 PM: Message edited by: JusFlyinBy ]

[BigCutlass]

i would just tell her how you feel about it, but dont tell her not to go..if you tell her not to go, she will probably get mad at you. but let her know that you trust her, but not the ex...make sure you make that clear otherwise, she will think you have no trust in her. i mean, you cant stop her from living her life. but you can let her know how you feel. thats my .02 dont spend it all at once [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Red V6 Raider]

I don't know what you should do. But I would get pissed and tell her that it's BS. Then she would get pissed off at me and I would hold her feelings for me against her the best I could and I would be hung up on repeatedly as I try to convince her how messed up it is and then I would eventually not be able to get ahold of her and I would drive myself mad throughout the night until the next day when she finally decides to call me and I would ask wtf happened and she would tell me that she spent the whole night home and didn't go and then I would be happy and that's what i would do.

[BigCutlass]

Originally posted by Red V6 Raider:
I don't know what you should do. But I would get pissed and tell her that it's BS. Then she would get pissed off at me and I would hold her feelings for me against her the best I could and I would be hung up on repeatedly as I try to convince her how messed up it is and then I would eventually not be able to get ahold of her and I would drive myself mad throughout the night until the next day when she finally decides to call me and I would ask wtf happened and she would tell me that she spent the whole night home and didn't go and then I would be happy and that's what i would do.

you have been there before havent you?

['98 BlackBird]

I choose B

[Seppo Kaitainen]

I am probably not the best person to answer this....

Option B.... But I had a thought. You should surprize her by showing up there this weekend. That way to you can disrupt any attempt by the ex, and surprize her with the gift of your presense at the same time.

[speedracer95v6]

Tell her it is BS and explain why cause that is a bad situation. Going with her ex that still wants her? Come on.

Maybe I'm just drawing from past experience, but if she is going with him, that means she has been talking to him, right?

[Mogobs30th]

I pick option D. Kick her worthless *** in the street. She cannot be trusted anymore. There is no arguing that. If she is going with an ex, they are BOTH trying to mend things. Better get rid of her.

[shock_core]

if she breaks your relationships trust, out the door with her. Tell her you feelings and dont tell her not to go, idkwtf shes gonna do, you oculd tell her to give you a call later that night? make her promise. sh1t, tel her to come to where you live...

[JusFlyinBy]

Theres good reason why I cant go there, and she can't come here this weekend... Shes trying to remain friends with her ex. She might be looking at this for just an opportunity to get out and do something. Or, for all I know, maybe she is trying to see if he's changed. Ugh, I left her a message to call me, Im just gonna wait to talk to her and wing it...

[Turbo V6 Camaro]

tell her to have fun with (ex's name hear) and if she goes not ot bother calling you back any more

[fbirdgt01]

why is she trying to remain friends? And if she broke up with him, and he was reluctant i definitely wouldn't trust it. What are they planning on doing? Was that ever mentioned?

I would say, "Hey sweetie, i'm gonna come up tonight and go out with you and your friends how does that sound?"

If she automatically haults and starts giving excuses, be sketchy and tell her you know what the plan is.

If she gets excited about it and is like "YES PLEASE COME..."

kinda give her the(emmy award like ;) ) "DAMN!!! i just remembered i can't... i gotta... " Tell her to go and have fun and you can't wait to see her again. then you'll know you're the one she really wants to see.

[speedracer95v6]

If she is trying to remain friends and he wants more...and she is going to a party and staying overnight...think about it...i go for what viper said.

[JusFlyinBy]

Whoops. She isn't friends with her ex. She hasn't talked to her ex in two months. Apparently she knows 2 other people that go to that college, but met them thru her ex and was going to see them, and not even run into her ex this weekend. She said she felt really bad but didn't realize the situation sounded as it did. Then she got really upset thinking that I have no trust in her, and that him of all people she would never hook up with that do*chebag ever, and he was a big mistake in the first place. So in the end, I end up feeling bad, but I made her understand my view point and why I would be mad. Shes not goin. See why im really careful with this stuff?

[L32Projekt]

Tell her you're concerned about the situation, but not because of her. Let her know that your distrust is in Mr. Man over there, but you still want her to go out and have a good time! Let her know how important her happiness is to you! That is all... [img]tongue.gif[/img] I'm no relationship expert, but this seems like a pretty common sense answer to me... :D