I beat the odds....girl story

[skorpion317]

Originally posted by nikon:
thats cool....but who broke up with who the first two times....and is this going to be another 10 month deal?.....

she broke up w/ me 1st time, i did it the 2nd time. i don't think it's gonna be a 10-month deal, it's gonna be much longer.

[bobbyr]

Originally posted by ReodDai:
Not gonna bother reading that... so this is my comment: Congrats!

if this comment does not apply to this thread please fill out the proper forms and a new statement will be issued by my offices within 5-7 business days.

lol, thats great.

[Mogobs30th]

Congrats to ya.

I have issues trusting women as well. I trust them about as far as I can throw them. Nothing personal ladies, some that I have met on this board are cool. I just think that there isn't a woman here that absolutely knows what they want, and they end up being a hypocrite when they tell you that they do know what they want.

skorpion, I know you are happy now, but keep an eye out on the rational aspect of life. Don't jump head into this again, you know what could happen. I had one girl that I felt the same way about that thought everything that went wrong in her life was another learning experience. In all reality it is, but in order for it to be a learning experience you have to learn something. When you make the same mistake again and again and again, then it is not a learning experience, its a vicious cycle that envelops your life, and that is exactly what it is doing to her. She goes off and runs back to a guy that honestly doesn't give a **** about her, because he said sorry. Its nice for about a month, then it turns to crap and she comes home. Its been like this for at least 3 years now. Same cycle. She thinks that this learning experience is good for her, except she doesn't learn that she can't have a relationship with him. But she tries everytime, and the cycle repeats itself every tow months or so. She wants to come running to me to make her feel good, but I am no longer patient with her. She don't want to listen to me, so I cut her off.

I know that this isn't EXACTLY your situation, but you two have broken up now twice. Don't let "history" or your "compatibility" with one another dictate your future with her. Usually the first time you break up with someone, you should realize that there was a reason that it wasn't working. I just never let past instances with someone dictate my judgement on how I spend my future. Learn from the mistakes, and remember why it didn't work the last few times.

[tbird31]

In the same boat as speedracer and mogobs. You probably have more experience than me, but all I know is take it slow, if it goes too fast it could end too fast or you could be in a delima(personal experience that has just happened in the last 2 weeks and SUCKS ARSE!).

And mogobs is totally right women need to figure out what the F*** they want and stop toying with us!

[majeskyb]

Originally posted by Mogobs30th:
I know that this isn't EXACTLY your situation, but you two have broken up now twice. Don't let "history" or your "compatibility" with one another dictate your future with her. Usually the first time you break up with someone, you should realize that there was a reason that it wasn't working. I just never let past instances with someone dictate my judgement on how I spend my future. Learn from the mistakes, and remember why it didn't work the last few times.

I know what you mean, but also- my wife broke up with me three times before we were married. Now I'm the happiest man alive, sort to speak. You could be right about it not working because you two broke it off twice, but at the same time, the time apart could make you two stronger and this time it may work out the best possible way for you two. Either way, good luck with you two

[TheBeast]

3rd time is the charm sometimes... it took me 3 times to realize the love I had for the girl I'm with now. The first two times I never let the emotional barrier crack, and now the emotional aspect has exploded resulting in a love I thought never possible...

Its weird how things work out like that, ya know?

[BLLDOGG]

i want to say first congradulations. alright, my problem with everything is you used sex as a tool. so the getting her back thing is tainted by that. this applies if your looking for a real relationship which i think you are. now if you hadn't had sex and done other stuff and got her, you would know that its about you and not your tool too. just something to think about.

[Red V6 Raider]

blah blah blah, you can't rationalize emotions and try to comprehend what women think and/or want. It's too much trouble, you have to simplify and try to enjoy life for a change and find someone to share it with. And for you bitter guys that have trust issues with women, I think you are the ones with the vicious cycle of choosing stupid women. :D

[Mogobs30th]

Originally posted by Red V6 Raider:
blah blah blah, you can't rationalize emotions and try to comprehend what women think and/or want. It's too much trouble, you have to simplify and try to enjoy life for a change and find someone to share it with. And for you bitter guys that have trust issues with women, I think you are the ones with the vicious cycle of choosing stupid women. :D

This is true, but only to a certain, SHORT extent. No, you can't rationalize or comprehend womens emotions, but YOU have the choice to be with them.

No one is destined to be with another person, and it is no ones fate to be with that person. We may not control who we love, but we have the choice to be with them. Too many times from men and women both tell me that it is their fate to be with the one they love, and too many times I see the same people miserable and depressed about being with them. They like to blame themselves for what is wrong with their relationship, when sometimes it might actually be the person that they are with that is the trouble. But they stay with that person on the SLIM hope that they will change for the better, and they never do. People may grow and expand with time and knowledge, but their core values and being don't change. It never does, and never will. And those that stay in a relationship on the hopes that they change, are ignorant, weak, and only afraid of being alone.

As for the rest, I have simplified my life by not getting into a relationship. And by not having a relationship, I enjoy my life to the fullest, with no "luggage" to carry around. I have tried the life of being with someone, and I end up making too many compromises and sacrifices. And I have done this more than once or twice. Why the hell would I settle down with just anyone? No one in their right mind would do that.

[ravenp]

I dunno, if it were me and she was sleeping with me while dating another guy... even if we had history...i'd have some questions and doubts.

But hey, i'm 32 and my life is already over [img]smile.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/rofl.gif[/img]

Seriously though... have fun, youre young! See as many girls as you can right now... you won't always have the chance ;)