How do you guys deal with stuff like this??

[Loochy88]

*warning* graphic content - disturbing reading

I was riding home today on the highway, someone else driving, and i saw there was a lot of traffic backed up on the highway. I looked over to see what was going on and i saw there had been an accident. It was a really really bad one. A motorcycle had appearantly lost control and a young man and woman had either flown into stopped traffic or been run over or something of that nature. Neither could have been more than 30 years old. The man was all twisted and the woman was laying in a pool of her own blood. Clearly, both were deceased. This was before the cops arrived. Its one thing when you see this in the movies or on TV, but its something else when you see it in real life. We were inching by as traffic had stopped on our side of the freeway also. Traffic on that side was at a dead stop and people were out of their cars hovering over the lifeless bodies without a clue as what to do, clearly distraught.

Seeing this kind of stuff would get to anyone I'm sure, and it really gets to me. Ive got that image of that girl in my head laying there not moving. Its just so disturbing. I just sort of clam up around people, sometimes i guess reality is just too much. I guess thats why im venting now. When you guys see this kind of stuff does it stick with you and bother ya as much as it does me? I mean its weird, you see so many people suffering in new orleans, and with the earthquakes and such, and you get over it, but this kind of thing just seems to stick with me?

Anyone know what i mean?

[Question]

I know exactly how that is man, I guess that is just how life is...

[Loochy88]

yeah, i came home this weekend to take a break from school and work on the car a bit. now im not really even in the mood. oh well, maybe tomorrow...

[vanbibber]

well seeing something like that in person would mentally scar you for a while im sure. i cant say ive seen anything like that so i dunno.

[loser]

me and my older brother found a dead guy last week. i couldnt sleep good for untill, and i still dont sleep 100%.

we were going back home, me and my brother, and 2 of his friends. so were almost home and its about 10:00 PM so its real dark and then we see this truck sticking out of the woods, the bed of the truck is sticking out in the road alittle. so we so down a bit. and we notcie the lights are still on, and we can hear the radio blaring. so we pull over. me and my brother get a little closer and find out the hole passenger side of the truck is just gone. mush. so we stop dead. my brothers two friends got scared ( they were a little drunk too thats why my brother was driving ) so they run back to the car. my brother pokes his head around the hole where the door should be and just froze. so i asked what he saw and he didnt answer. just said holy ****. so we backs up and i move up a little to discover that the guy driving is dead, he head was facing the wrong way, blood everywhere.

so we got back in the car drove a little untill our cell phones got serive and called police. turns out the guy was only 33 and was drunk. horrible.

i feel your pain.if its real bad, go talk to someone.my brothers friends only saw the guys arm sticking out. and they were more freaked out then me. they went to talk to someone and their fine now.let us know how it goes.

[camaro_speedemon]

I saw some guys brains leaking out of his head at one accident I stopped at. Cops weren't there yet, I was the one that called it in...

Needless to say, it was very disturbing, it took everything I had to hold back puking. It took a few weeks, but I eventually got over it.

My wife used to be an explorer with the forensic unit. I don't know how she did it, she's pretty much seen it all, including a shotgun suicide. I cringe everytime they show a surgery scene on Nip/Tuck lol.

[dmw319]

my girlfriends dad was an RA in college. and no one had heard from this one student in a day or two, so he unlocked his dorm room to find that he hung himself.

THAT would REALLY disturb me.

[crazygrrrl]

Gruesome accident scenes are very disturbing.

I'm lucky to say that I haven't come across any, and if I ever do, I would probably look the other way unless I'm the first one there.

If you think accidents are gruesome, can you imagine what our soldiers see on a daily basis in Iraq?

[img]graemlins/bowdown.gif[/img] brave men and women in the armed forces

[Dojo2000]

My father is a medevac pilot for Duke University Medical Center. He's seen some pretty gruesome stuff, and I'm not sure how he deals with it. Most of the time I think he doesn't like to talk about it. He was an Army helicopter pilot for 23 years before that, though.

[hockeyman]

Sad to say, but I see death almost on a weekly basis. Most of them are from gunshots, but every month or so I get a nasty accident or two that involved a fatality. It bothered me when I first started on the force, now it's just a reminder of what can happen when you're not careful.

You can be a safe driver and still get involved, but just keeping your eyes in the back of your head can help tremendously!

Oh, and gapers piss me off! They are the primary cause of secondary accidants [Edit]AccidEnts[Edit] at the scene!

I hate when I spell words wrong!

[ October 29, 2005, 04:21 PM: Message edited by: hockeyman ]

[SpeedingFirebird]

Originally posted by hockeyman:

You can be a safe driver and still get involved, but just keeping your eyes in the back of your head can help tremendously!

Dude you are so right. Just a few days ago, I am taking my son to get his flu shot. It was rainy and dark. I am taking a right into a parking lot and a Hyundia is working to take a left out of the parking lot. I put on my blinker and start to turn and notice these headlights come up on me fast. I abort the turn and pop the clutch to go (and fast) out of the way, and I can hear the van's tires skidding on the pavement. The van skidded into they Hyundai (t-bone, ouch). Luckily everyone was OK (guy in the Hyandai was pissed. After calling the Sheriff, I had to calm him down).

If I had not seen him coming, it would have been me and my son getting popped. Then I would have been the once trying to beat his feat in.

Originally posted by hockeyman:

Oh, and gapers piss me off! They are the primary cause of secondary accidants at the scene!

We call them rubber-neckers. Piss me off to no end. I have almost been in a few collisions because of them.

[Loochy88]

Originally posted by hockeyman:
Oh, and gapers piss me off! They are the primary cause of secondary accidants [Edit]AccidEnts[Edit] at the scene!

What are gapers?

edit: oh, i see, nevermind.

[L32Projekt]

Honestly, there's no way to prepare yourself for the first time you see a violent death. Some people may have a false sense of bravado regarding it, but until you see it you have no idea what type of response it will illicit from your subconscience.

I saw a violent death, and I was seriously messed up for a while. Everything you could think about death went through my head. Just reinforced how I feel about life in general, that it's precious and causing pain/death to others is not my cup of tea.

You'll ease the pain of your recent experience, but it's a process that's different for everyone. Seriously, the best advice was already stated: If you can't deal with it by yourself, please get some counseling.

[Loochy88]

well, my girlfriend was with me when we saw it. so was my mom. we've all taked about it of course. we're ok. its still sad though. just makes you appreciate things more i suppose.

[that90spunk]

yeah i definatly know the feeling..I remember about 2 years ago we were driving home from yankee stadium. and we saw a motercycle just laying in pieces, on the other side of hte highway. About a quarter of a mile down the road i saw a guy just laying there. someone put a blanket over him but his arms were hanging out, you couldnt see anything. But just seeing that really did something to me. I felt sick for days