Need Relationship Advice.... (Updated)

[HAZ-Matt]

I met Marie about four and a half years ago. She is originally from Canada, and was the hottest thing I had ever laid eyes on (eg. very curvy and sexy). At first it was really great. We listen to the same music, and enjoyed taking trips together. I spent as much time with her as possible. It was the best of times... no comlaints ever. She was fun to be with; we'd do some crazy things together. And it was also easy to spend time with her at UT (she came up there a semester after I did). I had lots of free time in college and so that was good.

Now I'm not so sure about how things are going. First of all I am in med school now and it just doesn't seem like I have the time to spend with her. I also am find a lot of her idosyncrasies annoying. It is strange, but I didn't really notice them before. I find myself looking at others. It's strange, but I never used to do that before. I guess I just assumed I'd be with Marie forever. I've inadvertantly done it while I am with Marie... but she hasn't said anything about it. Actually she never talks about our relationship or anything. I try to take a couple small trips together and we don't really say anything to each other. Another thing is that I like to buy her stuff, but it seems like the things she "needs" keep getting more and more expensive. And don't try to peg me as being superficial, but I can tell that she is getting older. Not that I mean she looks old or anything; I'm older... but she doesn't look quite as good as when I met her.

So that is where I am now.

What do you guys think?

I definitely care about Marie a lot, and I am very much attached to her. I'm not sure that I love her. I might have told you that I did a few years ago, but now I'm not so sure. Don't get me wrong, most people would be very lucky to have her.

What should I do?

[ September 29, 2004, 04:22 PM: Message edited by: HAZ-Matt ]

[RallyRed 98]

cut her loose. at first it sucks, but you will be pleased with the results.

as an aspiring physician, you should know that it will get worse before it gets better.

[shock_core]

i may just be stupid, but its a longdistance relationship right?

[Johnny Ray]

Many times relationships take their own path without me initiating anything one way or the other.

I used to think that it always had to be me in deciding whether it was going to continue or to end.

This might be the case in this relationship also.

:cool:

[57s98Camaro]

Date other girls, you're obviously not sure about this one.

You may think she's special, but the truth is there are thousands just like her and many more that are smarter, funnier, prettier, etc. You can't force feelings, and you're going to lose everything you have with her if you go in half-assed.

[Magnus]

Definately date other girls.

BUT.. also think about this.. You won't realize what you have until its gone. Make sure you are not making a mistake.

[HAZ-Matt]

Thanks guys.

I think I will keep her at least until I get into residency. I don't have enough money to trade her in, and she has been very reliable so far. She just has 36,500 miles on her so she will probably last a while longer. I'm kind of surprised that you all suggested I get rid of my Firebird though, since this is an FBody board. Oh, and I don't really see what dating has to do with my car...



Maybe you should re-read the original post.


;)

[epic]

Hahahahhaha, NICE. I'm glad I read that before I posted. Props!

[firebirdchick98]

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[GrigoryRasputin]

*******, you didnt give me enough time to post my "good reply". You'll suffer the consequences of your impatience.

[BobsSilverSix]

Wow that was a good one.

['98 BlackBird]

Originally posted by RallyRed 98:
cut her loose. at first it sucks, but you will be pleased with the results.

as an aspiring physician, you should know that it will get worse before it gets better.

yeah I agree with Ben on this one. Let her loose and if it is true love, you will find each other again.
You truly never know what you got till its gone.
Have you sat down and spoken with her about this? Usually that will work some things out.

['98 BlackBird]

oh you bastard, I just re-read the ENTIRE post. HAHAHA
yeah I think you and her should sit down and have a heart to heart. Maybe she just needs to be broken in again. LOL

[firebirdchick98]

Don't get rid of the Firebird. You will regret it if you do sell it. Unless you are getting a v8. Then I dont think you would regret it.

[HAZ-Matt]

Originally posted by '98 BlackBird:
oh you bastard.... HAHAHA

Yeah, that was the reaction I was going for.