Status of my Divorce

[Vanquish]

Ok, so things were going good. I had been spending time over there and spending the nights and yes, of course having sexual intercourse with my soon to be ex-wife and what not. I thought things were finally turning around and we might get back together.

Then I go digging in her dresser drawers to try and find a pair of my old pajamas to sleep in and that's when I found a pipe with crystal meth residue and burn marks on it, tin foil with burn marks on it used as the filter. A mirror with some remnants of crystal chopped up on it with a dollar bill rolled up beside it for snorting it. Well, I didn't say anything at first, and didn't want her to know I saw it so I kept my mouth shut and waited for her to leave for work the next morning. Then me being the nosy person that I am went searching through her entirer dresser, jewelry chest, and bathroom medicine cabinet (all the places she used to put things when we were together) and upon looking in those places I found bottles after bottles of a wide assortment of pills, you name it and she had it. So like any good detective would do who's trying to get custody of their daughter, I went to my truck and got my trust ol' digital camera and I took pictures of everything and wide angle shots to get the drugs and her bedroom in the picture to prove it was her bedroom. I found empty baggies with small remnants of what looked to be crystal meth or cocaine I couldn't really tell, and since I've never touched the stuff I couldn't taste it to tell the difference.

I took the pipe though that had burn marks on it and residue and I'm going to have it finger printed and a D.N.A. test done on it to see who's mouth(s) have been on the end sucking on it.

When all was said and done, and she got back from work I simply told her we needed to talk about something serious and please do not lie to me. I asked her "are you doing drugs again, of any kind?" she replied "no, I would never go back to that lifestyle" and then I asked her if she was sure and she wasn't keepin anything from me, because honesty is the best policy, and once again she replied no and swore on it.

So, since I love her to death and she wouldn't talk to me about it, and I want what's best for her and don't want to see her go down that road of drug abusal I decided to email her mother letting her know what has been going on and sent her some of the pictures I had taken. Shortly after they had a discussion, my ex mother in law would not return my daughter to the care of my ex wife (thank god) and my ex called me and said so much for trust.......blah blah..........we will never be together again. Well, that's when I got a little pissed and had a few drinks by that point and decided to put my hacking skills back in action. After cracking the password to all her email accounts, her stumbleupon accounts, and her myspace and messenger accounts I come to find out that she's secretly hooking up with this mexican dude, who used to somewhat be my friend who can't speak english very well, and can't spell in the english language for crap and he's 5 years younger than her.. He's a high school drop out and all that good stuff. I sent her a text telling her never to talk to me again and I would see her in court and way to choose your boyfriends........he seems like a real winner.

Then I dug through my contact's list and found his number and sent him a text saying "just remember, every time you kiss her it's like you're sucking my d***" and then I busted out laughing hysterically. He had the nerve to text meback saying "you need to grow up" yet he still lives with mommy and daddy and just quit his very important job of flipping hamburgers at McDonalds....... :P I'm completely wasted now and this is just making me laugh even more. So, I will leave my long post at this for now, maybe I will discuss it more in depth tomorrow in chat or something..........Happy Reading.

[hockeyman]

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Wow dude, for all of that, you seem to be taking it sorta well. I realize how difficult it may be for you, but I honestly don't have much advice to offer-up.

If I can offer my opinion though, I would say to get out (and stay out) of that house asap! Heavy drug problems usually turn for the worse about 98% of the time, and sh*t goes downhill mighty fast. You don't want to be anywhere near that house when the Police come kicking the door in to serve a Search Warrant.

Take your pics to Divorce Court, and ask to have permanent custody of your daughter. Any Judge in their right mind should see it your way.

I wish you all of the luck in the world bro! Just hang in there, things will get better for you somewhere down the line.

[youngsc]

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And we care why? I can't tell from this if you should go on Jerry Springer or Dr. Phil either way you and her need some help. Not the online version but some real serious sit down and talk to a shrink for a long ****ing time. The better question is why do people put themselves in these stupid *** situations and then instead of getting out when you had plenty of oppurtunities you continue to get ****ed up and write up stupid threads on web forums that have nothing to do with marital disputes, divorce or any other domestic related problems. You put on yourself go see a shrink and deal with it yourself!

[HokieBird]

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He wasn't asking for our opinions and he isn't the one who is ****ing up.

Just do everything in your power to keep your daughter away from your ex. Good luck man.

[youngsc]

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[QUOTE=HokieBird]He wasn't asking for our opinions and he isn't the one who is ****ing up. QUOTE]

Didn't say he was looking for opinions, just that everyone else that posts up this silly crap gets blasted so why should he be any diffrent or why should we care. It's as trivial as some school kid that posts up about his girlfriend that won't last anyway cheating on him.

[SpeedingFirebird]

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so your daughter is with your ex's mother? Is your ex trying to get the courts involved to get your daughter back or is she fine with her mother having her?

This **** pisses me off when kids are involved. I hope it all works out for you and your daughter. I hope your "evidence" holds up in family court.

[nikon]

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well you got your daughter...or you should, get her....thats the most important thing.

[crushedout]

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I don't even know what to say except I found out in H.S. that this guy was messin around with a girl I had been seeing. I asked him if my di(k tatsted good. It does make ya laugh out loud even though your pissed off.

Good luck with daughter, even with evidence courts are hell on fathers, especially young ones.

[UDLOSE98]

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man how could you even think to go back to her? instead of taking pictures dude, you need to physically take that **** ad turn it in. Those pictures wont do much for you down the road. You shoulda turned all that stuff into the cops.

[Mystic98]

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I know how you feel about drug abuse and family. My father used cocaine for a couple of years and you have to sit back and watch their lived go down the drain. Everything feel apart from a nice house to nice truck to old blazer and a trailer park. It seems like these people would relize what it is doing to them. Thank god i have been living with my grandparents sice age of six. Man good thing you got your daughter my dads ex wife was a stripper and a cocane addict. Sh had my little sister and 6 months later ran away and the court says there was nothng we can to until we go to court so half a year went by and we finnally got to see my sister. All that crap is tuff. All i can say is just dont do anthing stupid

[StrtRacer98]

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Good luck justin, your ex needs help... I hope you get custody of your daughter


and for the love of god, stop going back to her!!!!!

sex isnt worth it ;)

[Mighty Thor]

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That's horrible!! Damn!

The main thing now is your daughter. She is damage and hurt by this.

You have to be the normal one and the strong one. You have to be the moral compass in her life.

I've worked with teenage girls who came from broken and divorced homes. They get into all sorts of mischief and early pregnancy.

Don't let yourself go man, it's very important you talk to her all the time and hang out with her. Be really interested in her.

Good Luck.

[flyfrito_SS]

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That's horrible!! Damn!

The main thing now is your daughter. She is damage and hurt by this.

You have to be the normal one and the strong one. You have to be the moral compass in her life.

I've worked with teenage girls who came from broken and divorced homes. They get into all sorts of mischief and early pregnancy.

Don't let yourself go man, it's very important you talk to her all the time and hang out with her. Be really interested in her.

Good Luck.

I whole-heartedly agree.

[Vanquish]

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That's horrible!! Damn!

The main thing now is your daughter. She is damage and hurt by this.

You have to be the normal one and the strong one. You have to be the moral compass in her life.

I've worked with teenage girls who came from broken and divorced homes. They get into all sorts of mischief and early pregnancy.

Don't let yourself go man, it's very important you talk to her all the time and hang out with her. Be really interested in her.

Good Luck.

I do. I love hanging out with her. We have the greatest times together, because I spend every minute of it with her. And I just got her this 4 wheeler power wheels for her birthday last monday so that's been keeping us pretty busy...she loves it and calls it her "vroom vroom"

But yeah, my ex mother in law has her right now which I'm totally fine with her having her, they are good people. But, I told my ex if I find out that Kiley(my daughter) is at my ex's house, that I'm calling the police and they are coming to arrest her for possesion of crystal meth (thankfully the tube that I brought to them had enough residue in it to make out that it is in fact crystal meth) and it has her finger prints all over it. It would only be a misdemeanor since it is such a small dose, but it will come in my favor when we go to court the final time and I have that to show t he judge along with the array of pictures.

And Dan, the reason I took the pictures of her bedroom with the pills in it and didn't just take them to the police is because, they would have never been able to tell where the pills came from and would have thought I was just a crazy ex, trying to setup my ex wife.

What I should have did was call the police after taking pictures and let them come search the house. But, my daughter was in the house at the time and I'm just trying to do everything in my power to see that she stays out of the states custody for any of this.

[Mighty Thor]

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I do. I love hanging out with her. We have the greatest times together, because I spend every minute of it with her. And I just got her this 4 wheeler power wheels for her birthday last monday so that's been keeping us pretty busy...she loves it and calls it her "vroom vroom"

But yeah, my ex mother in law has her right now which I'm totally fine with her having her, they are good people. But, I told my ex if I find out that Kiley(my daughter) is at my ex's house, that I'm calling the police and they are coming to arrest her for possesion of crystal meth (thankfully the tube that I brought to them had enough residue in it to make out that it is in fact crystal meth) and it has her finger prints all over it. It would only be a misdemeanor since it is such a small dose, but it will come in my favor when we go to court the final time and I have that to show t he judge along with the array of pictures.

And Dan, the reason I took the pictures of her bedroom with the pills in it and didn't just take them to the police is because, they would have never been able to tell where the pills came from and would have thought I was just a crazy ex, trying to setup my ex wife.

What I should have did was call the police after taking pictures and let them come search the house. But, my daughter was in the house at the time and I'm just trying to do everything in my power to see that she stays out of the states custody for any of this.

Once a drug addict always a drug addict, unless they get help.

The longer you prolong reporting her the more this will work against you. In the court system they are always leaning more towards the mother when it comes to custody. Your daughter will end up being a once or twice a month visitor to you.

I say use the evidence now before your ex-wife figure something out and have your ex-inlaw back you up. What's going to happen is that the court will grant you full custody and they will force her to go into rehab if she wants visitation rights.